I cannot stand being licked. I hate it hate it hate it. I have to scrub myself. And I work with dogs all day and come home to cats at night. Grooming is an affectionate act for critters. They get confused and frustrated when I push them away.
But oh my god licking makes me sick.
Accepting oneself does not preclude an attempt to become better.
There will be things that I do that no one will be left to understand.